Hmmm, I always thought that first ....... forgiveness must be sought. Without seeking forgiveness, there can be none.
Contrition, remorse, shame, apology isn't that all part of the forgiving process? With out that, then forgiveness is simply a carte blanche to continue the bad conduct and only makes the forgiver feel good about himself. Forgiveness without remorse doesn't seem to me to have any other purpose. And since I'm sure I didn't like getting "smacked" the first time, I don't think that turning the other cheek to get smacked again, is a good idea. So what's the point in forgiving someone who doesn't give a damn if you do or don't?
I think that if you get smacked once, the next time they come back, you're pretty damn stupid if you haven't picked up a good sized stick, between then and now ..... just in case.