It sounds to me like the issue lies with the mode in which your wireless network is operating. If you're running it in 'Infrastructure' mode, computers will not be able to see or talk to each other. However, they will be able to link up to the access point, and share HARDWIRED resources connected to the same Ethernet segment that the access point is connected to.
'Ad hoc' mode allows wireless-equipped computers to establish connections with each other. I've not tried this (I always run Infrastructure), but I don't see why file and printer sharing would not work.
Keep in mind the security issues inherent to wireless. Favor WPA encryption over WEP if at all possible. If WPA is not available, use the longest and most complex WEP key your equipment will allow, AND upgrade to WPA-capable hardware as soon as you can.
Also, use MAC-address filtering. Set it up so that only system with their MAC address in your wireless device's ACL will be allowed to connect.
Good luck.